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Angela

22 May 2001

Internet (Anna radmid)

"Something else which may give you some hope - a good friend of mine the other day was telling me about this story she'd read on the Web, and how she'd cried while reading it, and how it had made her determined to avoid going into hospital - and I started to recognise the details, and it was yours.
Another mother I email with, whose baby died, said that having read your story she did feel that she should count her blessings, because she could still have another baby - and if she'd been through what you went through, she would have fallen to pieces. Her situation was that most obs would have recommended a CS, but she had a vaginal birth. The baby's death doesn't seem to be connected to that, though - if she'd had the CS she would have a dead baby and a CS. She has a hospital phobia so that would have been completely devastating, as opposed to just devastating... She remembered you from the UK Midwifery list and was amazed that you had so much strength to campaign and tell people about hysterectomies. So you really are making a difference to people's lives."
** Why when re-reading that does it make ME cry? - Anna**

Jamie
January 2002

Internet (Anna radmid)

Hi, I read your story and I've been looking for someone like you. I have had one vaginal birth, two c sections and am going to do a home vbac in 5 weeks. My doctor is absolutely againest the vbac and wants me to do an elective c section ( of course).
I have read and read about the safety of vbacs and risks of c section. why don't they tell you about that? all they say is my uterus might rupture.
I think it's horrible, horrible, what they did to you. I can understand you are not grateful for being "saved" by your hysterectomy. what a terrible outcome, that you alone have to live with.
Everyone in the medical profession, except my midwives, who are doing my home birth, have told me about the safety, convience of a repeat c-section. truthfully, I have'nt told anyone about doing a homebirth because I don't want to hear it. My doctor doe'snt know, he thinks I'm going to the hospital for a vbac. I plan on just calling him when it's over and telling him the bay "fell out".
Anyways I'm really sick and sorry for what happened to you. However, you've given my heart to carry on with what I feel is right. thanks again-jamie
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my girlfriend who has the fibroids who was told to get a hysterectomy says thank you to you! we searched the internet for myomectomy and found a doctor in california's website. he is an expert in it and explained everything about fibroids. he said absolutely do not get a hysterectomy for fibroids. Robin was so grateful to hear that cause she does'nt want one. thanks again. so now she'll search for a doctor in michigan who does myomectomies.

John
28 February 2003
Internet (Anna radmid)
Hi Anna, I married my wife about 3 years 6months now and we lost the first two baby. In both cases the pregnancy exceeded 9 months by two more weeks and prolonged labour. My wife had CS at the first pregnancy after prolonged labour and the baby died just almost immediately after delivery. And for the second pregnancy, the baby died in the womb during labour and my wife was able to expel the baby after about two days. Now we are expecting again and our doctor has booked us for CS two weeks before EDD. What is your advice? John

Ruby
(9 March 2003)

Internet (Anna radmid)

Hi Anna,
-I am an expecting mum reading about home births, and followed a link to your story on http://www.radmid.demon.co.uk/csanna.htm . I just wanted to write, not that I have any great wisdom to add, but simply to say thank you for sharing a part of your story so that other women can be aware that there are dangers we ought to know about.
- I read an abbreviated excerpt of your story, so I don't know if you feel your caesarean was appropriate in the first place, but I am so sorry that the repercussions have been so ugly for you.
- Your story is one unlike any other I have heard. I hope your site helps you to make your story, and the stories of others in similar situations, well know. May you have a voice politically in the UK, and may you bring seriously needed changes to women's health care.
- Blass you heaps
- Ruby

Bonnie
(2 May 2003)

Internet (Anna radmid)
DEAR ANNA,
YOUR WEBSITE LOOKS AWESOME - GREAT JOB.
Laura
(8 May 2003)
Internet (Anna radmid)
Internet (a little wish)

Dear Anna,
- I just wanted to say how sorry I am for what happened to you. I read your story
or part of it on the ARM site and have heartfelt sympathy for what you must
have/ are going through.
...
- And i was so struck by the irony of it all when i read your
story..I needed surgery and was ignored and you appear to have had it without
needing it..what are they playing at?
I do wish you all the best.
With love, Laura
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Dear Anna,
I`ve just read your full story....what a nightmare..I`m so sorry you`ve had to
suffer like this. It makes me sooo mad. What has happened to you is so
shocking. What I am so appalled at too is the lack of empathy with you.
Lots of love to you,
Laura

Ingrid
23 May 2003

Internet (Anna radmid)

Hi Anna,
CONGRATULATIONS on the Web Site (just had a quick look at it.....good on ya).

Jenny
11 August 2003
Word of mouth

- I read your website, there are no words....
- I understand now why you have a website, and why it is called that. I worked originally with NCT because I wanted to help encourage mums to go to ante natal classes so that they could make informed decisions... but I have never heard of a case like yours. I have known mums to have episiotomies without consent.
- Words fail me, the word sorry sounds so inadequate, bit I am sorry that you have gone through all of that and still suffer the consequences.

Husband of Anna
(2003)

Personal experience
Never expected the site to grow so much! I only thought you wanted to do a few pages with a couple of personal accounts. Excellent, well done. Lets hope it stops other wives, husbands and families going though this!
PS I would have prefered you to code rather than use cheap programmes :->>
Gina
(22 December 2003)
Via webrings
Your story needs to be heard by many...

AC friend of Anna (June 2004)

Personal experience

A little over 4 years ago something happened to my dearest friend. As a male I could not even begin to comprehend the enormity of what had happened...the trauma, the violation of her motherhood. I cannot think of anything that could be done to me which I would imagine as having the same effect both physically and emotionally. What did I do? Nothing. What's worse is that I didn't realise what signals my inactivity was sending out. I either couldn't cope, or didn't know how to. I froze. As a result I very nearly lost a special friendship...
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